In a new essay Sophia Bush wrote for Cosmopolitan, she notes that a relationship that doesn’t last a lifetime shouldn’t be viewed as a failure.
“In my 20s, when I was starting out my career as an actor, I wasn’t looking for a relationship, but one found me and became serious, even though I hadn’t planned to settle down until my 30s,” she writes. “But when the person you’re with asks you to marry him, you think: ‘This must be happening because it’s supposed to.'”
In her essay, Bush points to her own experiences in order to let readers know that when you stop searching for “The One” this can open the door “to endless possibilities,” she writes.
“I refuse to let that one relationship define me, which is why I’ve done my best to avoid discussing it for 10 years,” she says. “The reality is that, yes, it was a massive event in my life. And the trauma of it was amplified by how public it became, which was incredibly foreign and bizarre to a girl who’d been just another college kid 24 months before her life blew up.”
In hindsight, she adds, “I came to appreciate that relationships often serve a specific purpose at a certain point in time, for myriad reasons. Some are meant to heal you, some are meant to teach you how to build yourself up, and some are meant to show you how to trust your own intuition… This reality has taught me that the relationships that don’t lead to lifetime commitments are not failures. Not every love can last forever.”
Sophia Bush can currently be seen starring in “Chicago P.D.”, airing Wednesdays at 10 p.m. ET/PT on Global; you can also watch full episodes online.