“The Nanny” star Fran Drescher is opening up about being raped at gunpoint over 30 years ago.
Drescher first discussed her experience nearly 10 years after the incident in her 1996 memoir Enter Whining.
The actress believes there is a connection between her experience and her cancer battle years later. In a candid interview with Australian talk show “Studio 10”, with her ex-husband Peter Marc Jacobson by her side, Drescher recalled the violent home invasion they faced in 1985.
Drescher said that when she was promoting her memoir, it was a chapter that connected with readers the most. Several women asked her to sign that chapter of the book in particular. “I thought if people could see where I went from that low point to where I am now, maybe it’ll help and inspire other women, and men for that matter, who have been sexually assaulted to move on, to feel your pain, and then try and pick up the pieces and put yourself back together,” the actress explained.
“You’ll never be the same, but whatever that is, then forge forward with that and turn your pain into purpose, which is what I always do,” Drescher added. Ten years after the rape, Drescher was diagnosed with uterine cancer and she believed the diagnosis was a poetic correlation to her not dealing with the pain from the rape.
“So when you don’t do that… I mean, I ended up with a gynecological cancer. So it kind of ends up being very poetic in where the body decides to break down and create disease,” she explained. The whole thing was a learning experience for her and while she’s not glad she had cancer, she said she is the better for it. “Sometimes the best gifts come in the ugliest packages.”
Jacobson said that the experience was surreal and eye-opening for him as well. “People who talk about having guns in the house and things like that, it would not have helped,” he said. “It could have been used against us. There’s no time, unless you’re going to walk around with a gun pointed 24 hours a day,” Jacobson said.
He explained the two were having dinner with some friends when their home was broken into. “You try to live, you try to get through it alive. The police said: ‘Whatever you did, you did right, because you’re alive,'” Jacobson continued.
The incident was also eye-opening for Jacobson, who realized he was gay following the event. After years of therapy, he and Drescher have become good friends and can laugh about it now: “That was one of the silver linings. There’s always silver linings to even the darkest clouds. And us becoming friends again and moving into a new relationship was one of them.”