Melissa Rauch has announced that she’s expecting her first child and opens up about her emotional journey to motherhood.
The 37-year-old actress revealed the happy news in an honest and heart-wrenching piece for Glamour.com, where Rauch talks about her excitement of becoming a mom but also her anxieties after previously suffering a miscarriage.
“Melissa is expecting her first child,” Rauch begins, “She is extremely overjoyed, but if she’s being honest, due to the fact that she had a miscarriage the last time she was pregnant, she’s pretty much terrified at the moment that it will happen again.”
The “Big Bang Theory” star, who plays microbiologist Bernadette Rostenkowski-Wolowitz on the hit CBS sitcom, admits that she feels “weird” about announcing her pregnancy. In the essay, she jokes that she “would rather wait until her child heads off to college to tell anyone, but she figures she should probably share this news before someone sees her waddling around with her mid-section protruding and announces it first.”
Rauch goes on to talk about her problems with the term “miscarriage” and the burden it places on women. “To me, it immediately conjures up an implication that it was the woman’s fault, like she somehow ‘mishandled the carrying of this baby.’ F that so hard, right in its patriarchal nut-sack.”
But the New Jersey native qualifies that a better name would not make it any less awful to go through. She explains that losing her child “was one of the most profound sorrows I have ever felt in my life,” and she battled with grief and depression long afterwards.
Now, Rauch hopes that her message can be of some help to other women going through a similar situation. “So, to all the women out there who are dealing with fertility issues, have gone through a miscarriage or are going through the pain of it currently, allow me to leave you with this message: You are not alone. And, it is perfectly OK to not be OK right now.”