Blake Lively seems to have it all, but if you ask her, she’ll tell you that’s just “nonsense.”
In a new interview with Glamour, the 29-year-old actress talks about the perception of her perfect life.
“It simplifies people. Not all men, but a subsection of men, have a desire to understand and control women. To do that, you have to paint them into this thing you can wrap your head around,” Lively says. “But women are complex. It also is [a reminder] that what you see in the media is not real life. The night before an interview, I have complete anxiety: How is this person going to spin me? So when you read ‘Oh, she’s got a perfect life,’ or ‘Her life is crumbling’—they pick narratives for everyone. And the narratives stick.”
Of course, part of the mistaken perception comes not just from her seemingly glamorous lifestyle, but from the fact that she’s married to Canadian hunk Ryan Reynolds.
“My husband and I are really shy people who express ourselves best when we’re acting, when we’re hiding as someone else,” Lively says.
But as shy as they might be, Reynolds does share a lot on social media, including tweets about his daughter.
Only, Lively says those tweets aren’t all they seem to be. “He may as well work for the Enquirer. When he says ‘my daughter,’ he’s never, ever talking about her,” she says. “Everything is a completely made-up scenario. He’ll run them by me sometimes just to make me laugh. But oh, I’m so in love with him when he writes that stuff. I mean, I’m in love with him most of the time, but especially with that.”
“I said ‘Most of the time’ because if I say ‘I’m so in love with him all the time,’ then you get that eye-rolling, ‘Oh, her life is so great, she’s so perfect.’ So it’s, like, my defence mechanism,” Lively explains. “There’s never a time when I’m like, ‘I don’t really love you.’ Still, in a sound bite? It can be eye-roll-y. I have to learn to stop being defensive.”
Lively also talks in the interview about raising her daughter to be a strong woman. “We’re all born feeling perfect until somebody tells us we’re not,” she says. “So there’s nothing I can teach my daughter [James]. She already has all of it. The only thing I can do is protect what she already feels.”
“I’m more conscious of language too: I was reading a script, and this woman, who’s very tough, did something where she took control of her life. And so she’s sitting, gripping the wheel, ‘a look of empowerment on her face.’ And I thought, Hmm, they don’t point that out about men. ‘Look how empowered he is.’ It’s just innate.”