In the new issue of Cosmo, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles star Megan Fox offers some advice to women who are having a hard time in the dating department. “Women don’t have to be desperate and try so hard,”; says the 28-year-old mother of two. “Allow yourself to be strong and powerful and men will be crawling on their hands and knees.”;

Fox cites daytime talk show host Ellen DeGeneres as an example of a woman who seems to have figured this out. “I think Ellen is sexy. Maybe it’s the way she gives off the impression that she’s anti-“the business’ even though she’s engaging in it. And humor is always sexy.”;

Fox also discusses her relationship with Cosmo, a magazine that she used to regard in the same way that young teenage boys regard R-rated action movies. “I remember I used to think it was a big deal, when I was like 15, 16, and I knew that Cosmo was something my mom probably didn’t want me to read, and so it was exciting to get a hold of it because you felt like you were getting a glimpse behind what it was to be a woman; they’re letting you in on womanly secrets.”;

The new issue of Cosmo hits newsstands July 8.