Fans of Jillian Harris might have been confused last night watching the usually lovely designer by trade make a hard turn from checking in at her new home to crying on her Instagram Stories.
“I just wanted to let the ladies on my site, who have a very strong negative opinion of me know that your words worked, I feel like a piece of s**t,” Harris says.
“I’m not looking for sympathy, you’re right, I live a very privileged life and if I ever treated anyone bad in public, I’m sorry,” she continues, adding, “I love what I do, and I love the people who work with me and I’m going to keep on doing it and I’m going to keep on trying to do better.”
“No matter how many years I’ve done this, and no matter how many times I’ve ready s**ty things about myself, it doesn’t get easier,” she adds.
The fiercely negative comments started under Jillian’s post on April 19, 2017 at 2:47 pm, where someone named Shaylene wrote, “I’m confused. You just did a post about hating the mom bod now you’re embracing it?” suggesting Jillian’s articles were swayed by her sponsors.
The post in question is sponsored by Nike, and aside from tips about accepting your body, using an iCal, the post does include a tip about “dressing comfortably,” featuring images of Harris in the most adorable pair of pink Nike sneakers you’ve ever laid eyes on.
Following the comment, many of Harris’ supporters came to her defence, writing a myriad of comments back to Shaylene, most of which were to the tune of “if you don’t have anything nice to say, why are you following this blog?”
And just like that the battlefield was lit, with commenters taking sides and a whole lot of nasty things being said.
Emma chimed in with a lengthy opinion, suggesting her MBA and “extensive experience studying the business influencer model” made her qualified to leave another nasty comment.
At the time of this article there were nearly 300 comments on the article, with the majority of them telling Shaylene and Emma to stick it where the sun don’t shine.
Following airing out her feelings on Instagram, the 37-year-old former “Bachelorette” star wrote back to both women.
First, she addressed Shaylene’s quick quip about “changing her tune”:
It sounds like you stumbled upon the wrong blog! Hope you found your way out and don’t stumble back in, for fear that my content should offend you again to the point you have to swear and try to hide it behind a hashtag!
Also, I never said i hated my mom bod.
This post ‘happens’ to be sponsored but the content was already written and prescheduled as ‘unsponsored’…. We got lucky enough to get a sponsor to back the post. But the words, the intent and the content isn’t influenced, fake or false… and while it may seem like I flip flop…. I will tell you. One day I am proud of this new body of mine… and some days I don’t recognize it and want to work to change it. Not sure if you’ve had kids but if you have I think you will understand this ‘conflict of interest”
Are you upset that i’m getting paid to do my job? You understand that a blog will over 1 million readers a month is a TON of work and we’d be CRAZY to do it for free… I have 2 AMAZING fabulous women that work for me full time and LOVE their jobs. I get to bring my baby to work, support my family, support my community, support charities, dress up for work and am living my dream job. I am not hurting anyone, or offending anyone.
Correct me if i’m wrong but there are actually BAD people out there, who are miserable, mean, selfish, rude…. if by chance i had a spare moment to criticize someone else’s ‘job’ or efforts…. i would probably start there… but i guess we already know that you and I have little in common.
I wake up every morning and ask, how can i juggle being a great mom, a successful business person all while inspiring my employees, my family, my readers … how can i make the day more fun? How can i be more confident? how can i make my readers happy? I challenge myself daily and I LOVE it … and ,I will keep doing it, and, i will keep accepting appropriate sponsored posts to grow my business and keep my employees happy, so THEY can continue to make the world happier too… and hopefully help ‘cheer’ people like you up so they care less about ‘sponsored blogs’ and more about just being happy.
lastly – I really do try to take constructive criticism to heart, but in this instance i am SO embarrassed i took the time to respond to you… instead of taking the time to virtually hug all the happy lovers who follow me. That is my only regret.
Have a fabulous weekend, sending you LOVE and happiness and praying you find a blog that inspires you and makes you smile, obviously mine is not it. xo
And approximately 30 minutes later, Jillian also addressed Emma:
No one is advising me of anything. I am a very imperfect human who is sharing my very imperfect life, views & decisions. Criticize me for it, its ok. I would rather be criticized for being imperfect or inconsistent than everyone loving a FAKE persona.
What you see is real, and its not always correct and consistent and I am proud and ok with that.
Just trying to address a few of your notes here:
Why is it wrong to share that I am trying to be plant based? I called it ‘vegan-ish’ once … and realized that was the wrong word to use and continue to get shit on because of it. My god people. its a WORD… i am DOING MY BEST to do THE RIGHT THING. to do something positive and make a change… or is it wrong to talk about it because i haven’t totally succeeded? because I’m not perfect at it? I’m just confused why this was wrong to share.
Also, i DO feed leo Love Child Organics. Does this make me a bad mom in your opinion? are you a mom? have you tried it what perfect food do you feed your child? why do you think its gross? I’m not sure WHY you think i am lying when i say i use something… but, i’m sorry, if i say i use something… i use it. Leo loves it, and that is why i posted about it. I tried Love Child Organics for 2 months and then accepted the sponsored post. Love Child was also happy to not only compensate me for promoting her business, but we also donated VERY VERY generously to our local food bank as well. Should I start to question you what YOU do for you community? how YOUR job allows you to help others?
I also use and test MANY different products. Its a part of this business is trying different products out and giving me assessments. There is more than ONE good shampoo out there… I use Pantene hairspray everyday and tried Pantene Shampoo and Conditioner everyday, long enough to give my true honest opinion about it. I continued to use it at my Vancouver apartment and also use Avalon Organics in Kelowna. This is a TRUE STORY, which is WHY i wrote about it.
When i run out of those products, i will likely try something else and blog about that (have any suggestions??) and, if i get approached by another hair company, I might put those products on hold and give it a try… and then decide if its a good fit to blog about! I LOVE trying new products and thus, the appearance that I flip flop.
You mention that from a marketing and business perspective that what i am doing is “not working” and bad business… but, however, i would disagree. Of course I know because I see our financial statements and how happy the girls are that work for me. I also see the analytics and so Im afraid your statement is incorrect.
This ‘blog’, while it is a true representation of my life, is also a business (yes sometimes tricky to navigate and balance) but as a business, it has been lucrative, fun and succesful. I have employed several girls / people over the years and paid them well, taken them on trips, treated them, helped them reach their financial goals. I’ve been a good boss and I’ve loved this business i’ve built.
lastly, your comment about ‘how i use my baby for work’ is ‘GROSS’ … I asked your previously, If you have kids? Have you ever had to LEAVE your baby with a stranger so you can go back to work? Have you ever sobbed in your car wishing you didn’t have to go back to work and just wished somehow you could continue to do what you love, and bring your baby along? Maybe one day, when you have a baby (assuming you don’t have one because no MOTHER would ever attack another NEW mom for trying to stay afloat and support her family in the way SHE feels best) you will see, how PAINFUL and HEARTBREAKING it is to leave your baby to go back to work. .I started this blog to build a business, so that ONE DAY i could DO exactly what i am doing now… MAKING MONEY, SUPPORTING MY FAMILY all while getting to BE WITH MY BABY. What i am able to do is AMAZING and wonderful and i am SO grateful that i can throw leo on my hip and get my photo taken and get paid for it. SO SO grateful. I only WISH and hope every woman and mother out there had the opportunity to bring their baby to work… and not be criticized for ‘selling them out ‘
Good luck what your career Emma. I hope it brings you the success and happiness that my career does! I have so much fun doing what i do i have NO time to criticize others on their business! :)
Ps. I really do talk to leo like that all day.
But unfortunately that was not the end of that.
A commenter named Shay took things to the next level, posting:
Jillian, you really come off as a right b**ch here. Thanks for finally showing people your true self.
Now go eat some meat and wear some leather shoes. You really don’t get it do you.
Harris closed her Instagram Stories (which you will still be able to see for the next couple of hours) by saying she will be taking a break from social media, which is a downright shame for anyone who was tuning in for her daily home renovation updates or Leo snuggles.