Shonda Rhimes is looking thin and fit after a dramatic weight loss in recent months, but the creator of such TV series as “Grey’s Anatomy” and “Scandal” writes that losing weight has brought her a new perspective on how overweight people are perceived — and it’s not good.
As Entertainment Weekly reports, Rhimes opens up about her weight loss in her latest Shondaland newsletter, describing how slimming down to “closer to 150 lbs” brought about attention that she wasn’t necessarily seeking.
“Women I barely knew gushed. And I mean GUSHED. Like I was holding-a-new-baby-gushed,” Rhimes writes. “Only there was no new baby. It was just me. In a dress. With makeup on and my hair all did, yes. But…still the same me. In one of my same dresses (cause why am I gonna buy a NEW dress when I can take this to a seamstress and she can just make it smaller? Who am I, ‘The Crown’? No, I’m from the Midwest, baby, and I come with coupons).”
She adds: “Women gushed anyway. And men? They spoke to me. THEY SPOKE TO ME. Like stood still and had long conversations with me about things. It was disconcerting. But even more disconcerting was that all these people suddenly felt completely comfortable talking to me about my body. Telling me I looked ‘pretty’ or that they were ‘proud of me’ or that ‘wow, you are so hot now’ or ‘you look amazing!’”
Losing weight, she discovered, has been a double-edged sword that made her wonder what people thought of her when she was heavier.
After losing weight, she writes, “I discovered that people found me valuable. Worthy of conversation. A person one could look at. A person one could compliment. A person one could admire.”
She adds that she “discovered that NOW people saw me as a PERSON. What the hell did they see me as before? How invisible was I to them then? How hard did they work to avoid me? What words did they use to describe me? What value did they put on my presence at a party, a lunch, a discussion? When I was fat, I wasn’t a PERSON to these people. Like I had been an Invisible Woman who suddenly materialized in front of them. Poof! There I am. Thin and ready for a chat.”
As Rhimes explains, “being thinner doesn’t make you a different person. It just makes you thinner.”