Tina Turner is moving past the years of abuse she suffered at the hands of musician Ike Turner.
The two were married for 13 years after Tina initially joined Ike’s band at age 16 and was seduced. “I felt awful. I didn’t know how to say no because I needed the work,” she said of their time dating. “I think I wasn’t educated to handle that.”
And the abuse did not stop once they wed: “There was violence because he had this fear that I was going to leave him.” Ike also had affairs with other women, but the infidelity didn’t bother Tina. “The other women, because I didn’t love him that way, the other women weren’t so bad,” said Tina. “But it was the constant, constant ill-treatment.”
Tina finally found the courage to leave her husband 14 years later, in 1976, but it took decades longer to forgive him.
“As an old person, I have forgiven him, but it would not work with him,” she told The Times. “He asked for one more tour with me, and I said, ‘No, absolutely not.’ Ike wasn’t someone you could forgive and allow him back in.”
“It’s all gone, all forgotten. I don’t know what the dreams are about. The dreams are still there — not the violence, the anger,” she continued. “I wonder if I’m still holding something in.”
In 1990, Ike admitted to abusing Tina in an interview with People. “All the fights Tina and I had were about her being sad about something,” he said. “I get real emotional if you’re worrying and don’t tell me what it is. Then I can’t about nothing else. So I’d slap her or something like that.”
Ike died in 2007 from a cocaine overdose.