The Real Housewives of Vancouver is definitely up there when it comes to having the nastiest fights and feuds in the history of the franchise. Mary Zilba knows that all too well, spending most of her time on the show trying to steer clear of the drama but somehow finding herself constantly caught in the middle of it . While some of the other woman have accused her of playing the “victim”; card, she fights that label.

“I am 100 per cent proud of how I handled myself on that show,”;  she tells ET Canada“s Erin Cebula during a sit-down at her home in Vancouver.  “I wasn’t a victim at all. I felt I was victimized but I don’t ever call myself a victim. Sometimes you need to rise above the bully.”;

Two years since the show went off the air, Mary has put it all behind her and confesses she doesn’t keep in contact with any of the other women from the show.

“I honestly really in my heart wish all the girls the best in their future…I don’t wish to have any relationships with them  at this point,”; she said. “I’ve moved on from it all and I don’t keep track of what they’re doing.”;

While we wish there were some hope for a Mary/Ronnie reconciliation, it’s clear Mary and Jody will forever be enemies. Their fighting was neverending and now, years later, Mary reflects on their rocky reality TV relationship.

“I think maybe there are certain things that caused Jody to become the way she is and not accepting of others, and judgmental of others…I just don’t want to be a part of it. If she’s going to do that I hope she doesn’t hurt anyone else in the process.”;

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Life has been good to Mary since the cameras stopped rolling. While we don’t see her on screen anymore, she’s been working hard behind the scenes, creating new shows with her producing partner Fiona Forbes and their production company, LadyPants.

“As soon as I was done with Housewives I started writing treatments for shows…Ladypants is in full business now and we have 4 shows in development,”; she reveals.  Mary can’t divulge too much, but  she teases that they just wrapped a cooking show – with a twist! But will we ever see her in front of the camera again?

“Everyone thinks I’m on the shows and I’m not, I haven’t cast myself on anything,”; she laughs. “I love working behind the scenes but if there is a project that would be right for me on camera, then maybe I would pitch myself on the show.”;