Jennifer Lopez is the cover star of the Harper’s Bazaar February issue in which she opens up about her ‘up and down’ love life and reflects on her 30 years in show business.
The 49-year-old singer/actress is in love with boyfriend Alex Rodriguez, but when it comes to relationships, it hasn’t always been a cakewalk for the “Jenny from the Block” hitmaker.
“For me, the relationship journey has been very up and down,” says J-Lo, who has been married three times. Her most recent marriage was to singer/actor Marc Anthony, with whom she shares two children, twins Emme and Max. The pair divorced in 2014.
“But it didn’t have to do with anybody else but me — it was about me figuring out me,” the “Second Act” star continues. “Until you learn to love yourself, you can’t completely love [someone else] in a way that is pure and true.
“Once you do that, you can have relationships that are based on love and respect, that are supportive and nourishing. There’s an evolution there that had to happen for me. I feel like I’m in a better place now.”
Lopez, who was also at one time engaged to Ben Affleck, doesn’t delve too deeply into her relationship with Rodriguez but she does refer to him as her “dream man,” and appears to be in a happy place.
“I’ve got two amazing kids and a great boyfriend,” she says. “I don’t have everything figured out, and everything isn’t perfect. But I feel very proud that with all the things I’ve gone through in my personal life, I’m still optimistic and hopeful.”
The multi-talented performer, who last year accepted the MTV VMA Video Vanguard Award and made her return to the big screen, also reveals to Harper’s Bazaar that she is “trying to give herself more credit” for her long and successful career in entertainment.
“I feel very proud that I’ve survived as long as I have in this business,” Lopez says. “The thing about people, women especially, is that you can have 12 people telling you you’re amazing, but that one person kind of putting you down, that’s the voice that sticks in your head.”
“Then finally you go, ‘Wait, I’m not lying. I’ve been doing this a long time. This is not a mistake. I worked hard to be here.’ And you know what? Congratulations to myself. Not in an arrogant way, by any means. It’s like, ‘You’re doing good, baby. Give yourself a break.’”
You can read the full interview at HarpersBazaar.com.