When it comes to parenting, Kate Hudson has a lot to juggle. With three kids from three different relationships, the 39-year-old actress makes the most out of her unique situation.
“As much as I would say I don’t recommend it to most, my situation is quite amazing,” she says on the podcast “Divorce Sucks! with Laura Wasser“. In the interview, Hudson dishes on moving on from her divorces and learning to co-parent with her current partner and two exes.
“When you get divorced, you’re still in a relationship,” the star explains. “It’s just a different kind of relationship. You’re going to have good days, you’re going to have bad days, you’re going to have good weeks, bad weeks.”
Hudson, who gave birth to a baby girl named Rani Rose in October with boyfriend Danny Fujikawa, is also mom to Bigham Hawn, 7, from her relationship with Muse frontman Matt Bellamy, and Ryder Russell, 15, from her marriage to The Black Crowes singer Chris Robinson.
The actress admits she enjoys financial freedom and doesn’t need to rely on her former partners for support, which she says has allowed it to be “a little easier to walk away from certain relationships.” And yes, Bellamy, Robinson and Fujikawa have all learned to get along.
“They all get along. It’s funny and we laugh about it. I never thought my life would look like that, but it is what it is,” she says with a laugh. “All I care about is happy kids, and we all make that the priority.”
According to Hudson, the secret to maintaining a good relationship with her exes is communication and making sure the same rules exist in each household.
“It’s just communication, and sometimes communication can be great and sometimes communication gets awry,” she says, pointing to her mom, Goldie Hawn’s relationship with her step-father, Kurt Russell, and attitudes towards her birth father, Bill Hudson.
“I think the one thing that I learned from my mom is that no matter what you’re feeling and no matter what – when I see my friends talking s*** about their ex-spouses in front of their kids, I get so upset because they don’t recognize how much that affects their child and how resentful their child will become of them,” Hudson explains. “No matter what, I never heard a bad word about my father.”
She continues: “I also see this great feeling, a warm feeling, in my kids when they hear us talking and laughing and a real connection. We might not have been able to live together and sustain the distance, but at the end of the day, there’s real love there. When the kids feel that I think, to them, it makes them feel safe and good.”