Dax Shepard is an open book when it comes to his sobriety.
The “Parenthood” alum shared his advice for how he tackles his addiction every single morning. “In general, I’m embarrassed to admit this. For the very first 12 years of sobriety, I didn’t miss a single day, not one,” he told Gwyneth Paltrow on the goop podcast. “I get crazy superstitious about it.”
“I wrote a page in my journal every single morning because I had this thought that if I can’t commit 20 minutes to remember I’m an addict each morning, I’m going to end up blowing nine hours a day as an addict,” Shepard continued. “I have to be able to say, minimally this is your commitment.”
“You’ve got to acknowledge you are an addict every day, first thing, right when you wake up, you write a page,” he advised. “It doesn’t even have to be about being an addict. It’s just this physical activity there to remind myself, ‘I have a thing that I’ll never not have’.”
Shepard, 44, also opened up about his intimacy with wife Kristen Bell and dealing with his own insecurities. “It requires vulnerability about the thing generally we’re all most fearful of,” he said of intimacy. “Are we enough? Do we fulfill the person we’d like to fulfill? It requires the most heightened sense of vulnerability, I think.”
“Which generally is why people will put it off or not deal with it,” Shepard explained. “It’s so easy for that thing to break down and just so hard to repair.”
Regarding insecurities, Shepard said he noticed a real shift when he hit 40. “At a certain point, you’re like, ‘F**k it.’ I’m going to be who I am, I’m not going to look in the mirror and be so critical of everything, and I’m not going to rehash every mistake I’ve ever made in my life and flagellate myself for it,” he said. “I really did feel when I turned 40 I could feel a real shift.”
“I was like, ‘I’m not going to do that anymore.’ Because I was ruled by my insecurities, and like by the idea that I was unlovable, and I kept just trying to prove that out,” he concluded.