While she’s an icon for body positivity now, Lizzo wasn’t always confident in her own skin.
The “Juice” singer, 30, joined “The Good Place” actress Jameela Jamil on her new series, “I Weigh Conversations” on Instagram and got candid about what it took to finally love her body.
“Every Black woman I saw was really light-skinned, or had straight blond hair,” Lizzo said. “So I was like, ‘Wow, that’s beautiful, I want to look like that!’ but I would look in the mirror and I looked so far from that, that I was almost like, ‘I want to be somebody else.’ I didn’t have little things I wanted to change about myself. I had this entire fantasy about waking up and being like, Sailor Moon. Completely unrealistic goals.”
Things turned worse when family and friends started to body shame, “There was so much signalling that I didn’t even realize growing up as a kid that my friends that are saying to me,” she said. “Even my parents were saying things that they didn’t even know… There’s just so many little things that we were all taught, that we teach.”
And the shamming even came from her boyfriend too, “I remember I was with this guy, and we were laying down, and he was like, ‘I’m just so relaxed when I’m with you.’ And then he’s like, ‘So I showed your picture to my friends, and they said that your face is great but your body needs work.’ I was like, ‘WHAT!’ Who says that to somebody? And I was the smallest I had ever been in my entire life.”
But finally, Lizzo realized that, “no matter how small or big or how I look, no one’s ever going to be completely happy.”
“I’m not going to be able to please everyone with my outward appearance,” she continued. “Someone’s always going to have a critique, someone’s always going to have some negativity to say about me. So all that matters is what I think of it. And I had to go so deep inside myself and look in the mirror. Looking in the mirror and accepting what’s in the mirror is very, very difficult. And right now, I love it every time I look in the mirror.”
And her one last piece of advice was: “I think because I believe that I’m beautiful and I found that beauty within myself, it starts to come out. Maybe I was always beautiful to people, you know, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But I’m glowing because I had to find that.”