Nikki Reed is tired of being mom-shamed and having people chime in on how she should raise her toddler.
The mother to 1.5-year-old daughter, Bodhi, with husband Ian Somerhalder recently posted a picture on Instagram of herself breastfeeding her toddler. Like everything on social media, the reactions were mixed, with some people telling the actress and beauty company founder that she should not still be breastfeeding at that age.
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I often get asked how long I plan on breastfeeding. To be honest, I have no idea how long her and I will be on this journey together. I follow her lead, and she tells me exactly what she needs. At 20 months she is only just becoming interested in food. I discovered after a year of blending and smooshing and mashing, that my daughter doesn’t like mushy baby food. Wild right? It wasn’t until someone suggested I skip puréed food and go straight to finger foods that she became intrigued by what was on her plate. Who knew some kids just don’t ever go for blended baby food. I tried bananas, avocado, all the semi-soft good stuff and she rejected everything. Never in a million years did I think to skip that step when she only had two teeth. Also, I thought all babies loved avocado! So all you mamas out there having trouble feeding your little one the mushy stuff, maybe try over-steamed veggies diced up itty bitty so he/she can play with textures. I wish someone had told me this sooner! If your little one isn’t eating puréed solids, they might want to go straight for big people food! Right now thats where were at, still breastfeeding and skipping right to finger foods. Also, in case you need to hear it again because I definitely did, whatever you’re doing you are doing it right! Every baby is on their own path doing things when and how they need to, and our job is to trust our gut, talk to other mamas and just go with the flow! Ps accidental matching outfits…come on! This bloomer/hat combo courtesy of both Grandmas making all my baby-wardrobe dreams I didn’t know I had come true :)
“I don’t believe that mom-shaming is ever OK,” Reed told E! News. “Fed, whether that’s with formula or breastfeeding or whatever works for your child and for you is what’s best. All moms are just trying to do what’s best. And for some moms, breastfeeding just doesn’t work out, whether that’s an issue with milk supply or going back to work right away or whatever that thing is, and it is not our job and responsibility as parents to judge or shame other parents. It’s our job and responsibility to support and spread information and uplift and share tips.”
She adds that children are born with their personalities and as a parent “you’re nurturing that development and you’re hopefully in some way encouraging that development but they are who they are, and they gravitate towards what they gravitate towards.”
That thought is what caused Reed to share about feeding her first child solids.
“No one told me that not every baby wants to eat mushed banana and jarred sweet potatoes,” the “Twilight” star who is now an ambassador of Raised Real, a plant-based baby food meal service said. “I didn’t realize that. I thought it was that you go from breastfeeding to mushy food to solid food to finger food and that’s just the way that is it.”
“I think that all moms are on this journey of trying to make the best decisions they possibly can for their kids,” she said. “That’s what all moms want in the whole world, that’s it! And so as we sometimes face challenges in those areas, I think it’s really important for us to be supportive and also vocal about the things that we discover along the way.”
Reed also opened about Somerhalder’s dad skills. “Luckily, we have a very similar approach to lifestyle and to parenting, which is wonderful. And I’m sure you can imagine what it’s like to see him as a dad, he’s a very, very special, very caring person and I knew that by the way he parented our animals prior stepping into this chapter.”