Jada Pinkett Smith is opening up about her relationship with Will Smith.
While the pair have been married since 1997, Jada, 47, says “betrayal” is a real part of their marriage.
In a teaser for an upcoming episode of her Facebook Watch series “Red Table Talk”, the “Girl Trip” actress explained, “I’m asked a lot about, ‘Is there infidelity in your relationship with Will?’ And it’s like, ‘No, but there’ve been other betrayals of the heart that have been far bigger than I could even think in regards to an infidelity situation’.”
While Jada doesn’t specify what these situations entailed, she chatted with couples therapist Esther Perel about the other kinds of relationship betrayal, which can include contempt, neglect, violence and indifference.
She later revealed she has both cheated and been cheated on in past relationships.
“I have to tell you: Me cheating on someone was more devastating than me being cheated on,” she revealed. “Yes, it actually taught me to forgive when I got cheated on because I understood. And what I understood most was it didn’t have anything to do with me.”
Once the full episode aired, the teaser became clearer. Jada spoke how only they have had to rebuild their marriage from some lows.
“Finding the core of us that wanted to be together outside of the constraints of the traditional ideas of marriage because they weren’t working for us.” Once they started to change how they looked at marriage, they could “find the true authentic bond outside of obligation.”
Some of those obligations were being the “perfect wife” and supporting “his dreams, no matter what it is.” She searched for more independence after she realised that their life only “looked like his dream.”
“He felt abandoned at first. He felt really abandoned,” Jada recalled. “I was so terrified, first of all, you never want to hurt the person you love … I stayed in that position for so long because I didn’t know how to say it.”
Jada called the rebuilding “the most excruciating process of my life.”