Oprah Winfrey has had an extraordinary life, with some extraordinary turning points.
The media mogul is on the cover of the latest People magazine; in the issue, she reveals why she decided not to have children, nor get married to long-time partner Stedman Graham, and five of her biggest life-changing moments.
Winfrey and Stedman met in 1968 at a charity event, and at one point they were engaged. She thought she should plan for the future, telling People, “At one point in Chicago I had bought an additional apartment because I was thinking, Well, if we get married, I’m going to need room for children.”
But the media mogul deeply appreciates the responsibility and commitment of raising children and to put it lightly “has seen too much.” Oprah explains, “I realized, ‘Whoa, I’m talking to a lot of messed-up people, and they are messed up because they had mothers and fathers who were not aware of how serious that job is.”
Winfrey continues, “I don’t have the ability to compartmentalize the way I see other women do. It is why, throughout my years, I have had the highest regard for women who choose to be at home [with] their kids, because I don’t know how you do that all day long. Nobody gives women the credit they deserve.”
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And as far as regret and not getting married? Oprah is also happy and confident with that decision, as she does not think they would still be together if they had ever tied the knot. Winfrey explains, “No question about it — we would not stay married, because of what that would have meant to him, and I would have had my own ideas about it.”
Oprah also opens up about some other life-defining moments.
One of those early moments was moving to Nashville from Milwaukee as a teenager.
“If that had not happened to me, I would have been one of those people who would forever have been looking through the windows of other people’s houses wondering what that’s like,” she says.
Then there was the massive decision to end her talk show after 25 years on the air.
“You know who was the best for me during that time? Stedman,” Winfrey says. “He was saying, ‘You didn’t come this far to have your whole life discarded because of a decision to own a network. And whether that works out or it doesn’t work out, you still have a life.’”