Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard may exude couple goals, but they get into fights just like everyone else — and they can get intense.
Bell revealed that when she appeared on the “Life Is Short with Justin Long” podcast on Tuesday, and opened up about a recent argument that was apparently a doozy.
“Something happened with Dax and I early on where we decided we were never going to not be asked about our relationship,” the “Good Place” star told host Justin Long. “So if we were going to talk about it, let’s make sure we show the good, the bad and the ugly and how we handle it. Let’s not make it saccharin, and we really try hard to not make it saccharin, and we talk about the fact that we do fight, we do go to therapy, we dislike each other a lot sometimes.”
She shared an example of a recent disagreement that she described as a “pretty incredible fight… Incredible. I mean like top of the lungs screaming.”
What led to the fight is something that most couples can probably relate to. “It was about the things around the house that I felt I needed to help with,” Bell explained. “We have a relationship where you are supposed to be able to say I need your help with this. For those of you listening, I’m telling this from my perspective. He’s not here, he can’t defend himself.”
According to Bell, she was on her way to work and left a note for Shepard about a couple of chores she needed him to do.
“I left a note and I was like, ‘Hey dad! Would you mind taking the two towels in the dryer and folding them’ and then like one other thing. I thought, ‘That’s 10 minutes of work, I can say that.’ At that point, the house [work] was getting to be a lot for me. The keeping up with the mom stuff, the shoes being outgrown, all of that,” she said.
“So I left this note and I came home on Sunday, everything was fine. Monday night we’re laying in bed and… he goes, ‘When you leave me notes, yeah, I feel really controlled,’ and he launched into how he felt about it.”
According to Bell, she took a moment before responding, and replied, “Okay, I totally hear you. It will never happen again. If I need something to be done around the house what is a way I can do it, that you’d be okay with hearing?”
Things went downhill from there. “And somehow, then we both blacked out and got into a fight and I don’t actually remember what happened but what transpired was a lot of volume, a lot of harsh words being thrown around, and it was an angry, angry fight about how nobody does anything for anybody else,” Bell said. “I grabbed my pillow and stomped down the hall and I sleep in the front room and I’m crying. We don’t talk for three days.”
Shepard eventually found a way to make it up to her — by introducing her to a rescue dog. “I didn’t get an apology, but I got a dog!” Bell joked. “This is so much better than an apology. So I bring the dog home, it’s great.”
She added, “We never talked about that fight, ever, but I will say this: Every single thing that I have needed done or thought, ‘I’d want help with this,’ since that fight, he has been ahead of. I couldn’t complain about him if I tried right now.”